Home Maintenance 3
Home is more than a space or a street address. We need to see it in terms of relationships that are crucial to making a house a home. Relationships can be wonderful, fulfilling, and enriching.
At times in relationships there can be friction. Tension arises, someone is wronged, or misunderstood. There is conflict and it can cycle down at times to dissolution and chaos. Ow can we prevent this? What breaks the cycle where relationships crumble? One essential element is forgiveness.
If we don’t forgive we carry the burden, we drag the weight. In seafaring terms when we don’t forgive we are dragging anchor. You won’t make it very far sailing the seas with your anchor out and dragging on the bottom of the ocean floor.
It’s hard to forgive. We want to get even. We want revenge. When we’re wounded we hurt and when we are wronged we are in pain. But holding onto unforgiveness oftentimes does more harm to us than whatever infraction caused the wound or offense. I’ve heard it said when you don’t forgive it is like you drinking poison and expecting your offender to die.
In a home you must forgive. The staff at Canterbury works hard and we are a close knit group of folks. I often tell them, “When we live close / work close together you bump into each other from time to time.” We will forget, offend, be short with one another especially when we are in a high stress moments where we are working at capacity. It happens. Unintentionally we bump into one another. When this happens we need to forgive, ask forgiveness, be reconciled and move forward.
Forgiveness is essential to life and home. Musician, singer, songwriter Don Henley from the Eagles wrote a song called the Heart of the Matter Here is the chorus and bridge…
I’m learning to live without you now, But I miss you, baby
The more I know, the less I understand
All the things I thought I figured out, I have to learn again
I’ve been trying to get down to the heart of the matter
But everything changes, And my friends seem to scatter
But I think it’s about forgiveness, forgiveness
Even if, even if you don’t love me anymore
There are people in your life who’ve come and gone
They let you down, you know they hurt your pride
You better put it all behind you, baby, ’cause life goes on
You keep carrying that anger, it’ll eat you up inside, baby
I was surprised and pleased when Don Henley got down to the heart of the matter he landed on forgiveness. He’s right. How can we make the world a little more like home? Walk in forgiveness – take a step today.
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